Or is it? Can we really put schedules around tiny babies and keep our sanity? Is it fair to our children to impose rigid timetables on them?
I've had a mixed response from the parents I've asked. Gina Ford seems to be one of the most divisive childcare gurus out there. For every person who told me her Contented Little Baby book was a lifesaver, another has told me the plan is 'evil'. I read an updated version of her notorious book and to me it seemed fine actually - there was no mention of refusing to feed your baby if it's not at the right time and she suggests only letting them cry for 10 minutes or so as a last resort. But the very packed schedule has frightened even me, and I love timetables!
The Baby Whisperer by Tracey Hogg came in for some praise from my friends - it seems to offer a middle way, between rigid structure and being completely led by baby. The tone of the book can be a bit patronising at times but I'm enjoying reading it and like the tips to remember your baby is a human being...not a naughty pet to be trained from day 1!
The third and final (for now!) book that I'm working my way through is What To Expect in the First Year by Heidi Murkoff. This promises a month by month guide to the milestones your baby is likely to be reaching. My concern with this is that I'll spend my whole time thinking 'why isn't my baby doing that yet?' and drilling the poor thing in daft exercises to get him walking/talking/sleeping at the 'right' times.
What's your experience of baby books, help or hindrance? Any you would recommend for us first timers? Or can I really trust that my maternal instinct will kick in and all will be fine? Let me know what you think below.
